Rejection has kept numerous people from moving forward. Many have unfulfilled destinies. Even prophetic people experience rejection at levels that are all too common. Rejection is a destructive force. Jeremiah, the prophet, was alerted to one symptom of rejection, fear.
And don't be afraid of the people, for I will be with you and will protect you. I, the LORD, have spoken! (Jer. 1:9).
Fear, isolation, mental illnesses, victim mentality, depression, disconnectedness, perfectionalism, people pleasing, infirmity,
etc. are all symptoms of rejection. The innate desire to connect and be a part of something or someone is a powerful force. For some, the desire to belong is so strong it can lead to some very destructive behaviors and relationships. But Christ came to destroy the spirit of rejection and set His people free! So, how can one maneuver through rejection?
The key to maneuvering through rejection is to recognize that it is one of the most destructive and ancient snares of the enemy. Rejection strips one of their identity and sense of worth. Rejection comes to "kill, steal, and destroy." Families, homes, and lives are destroyed by the subtle force of rejection. Identifying and annihilating rejection is a must for Kingdom-driven living!
We will not cover all of the levels of rejection in this short piece, but be mindful that there are several levels of rejection, including generational rejection. However, I believe parental rejection, by far, the most tormenting, debilitating, and destructive of all. Sadly, some never overcome parental rejection. And it is only through Christ healing and deliverance can come. Jesus is the ultimate healer. I want to share four steps to maneuvering through rejection.
The first step to maneuvering through rejection, is awareness. Introspection and inquiry is the beginning of the healing process. Awareness is key to changing any negative influence or behavior. Take a moment to reflect on a time when you felt rejected. How did you respond? Did you comply with the manipulator or were you able to use rejection to grow stronger?
The second step is to allow God to heal any broken, fragmented, and torn places. Rejection separates the spirit and the soul, but God, through Christ deep wounded areas are mended. Let God saturate you. Let God heal you. Let God awaken those broken places so you can begin the process of healing your soul.
The third step is be alert to rejection. Set a watch. Guard your spirit and soul. Next, develop a plan of action as to how you will handle rejection when it comes. Is there is a family member, friend, or spouse who is skilled at tugging on your emotional strings? Seek ways to create boundaries. Are there negative associates, relationships, etc. that influences and encourages you to conduct destructive behaviors? Develop techniques to avoid them (Psalm 1).
Finally, after applying steps one through three, stay free! Connect with Godly relationships, communities, and/or networks (online or face-to-face) and engage in ongoing reading of the word and accountability partners. Christ by His stripes suffered and died for us! Lean on Him, trust in Holy Spirit to guide you, and remain aware of the enemy's schemes to use rejection to "steal, kill, and destroy" your destiny in God.